I have always dealt with a lot of anxiety and self-doubt, and with that comes fear. I have been afraid of many things over the years, but there’s a popular contemporary Christian song called “Fear Is a Liar,” by Zach Williams, that perfectly details the roots of all my fear. Fear that I’m not good enough, not strong enough, not worthy, not loved, and not beautiful. Fear that I could never find contentment because my mind is too broken, that I’d always feel alone and lost, that my mistakes and flaws were too great to overcome. But, like the chorus says, fear is a liar. Even though I may feel this way sometimes, I know I can’t always trust my feelings. But I can trust God’s Word, and it says the opposite of all those things. Lies must be fought with truth, and truth comes from God’s Word.
When I feel not good enough, not strong enough, or too flawed, I can go to 2 Corinthians 12:9: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” God’s grace and power are great enough to fill in the gaps for me – I don’t have to fear my inadequacy! And this is not just a hobby of his, he designed things this way – he wants to use my weakness and imperfection that I think is bad, and through his love and strength and perfection turn that into something good! (See Romans 8:28: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him...”) Something that will draw me closer to him. Something that will help others who are also struggling. (See 2 Corinthians 1:3-4: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”)
When I fear that I am just downright unlovable, God’s got more verses than Picasso’s got paint. Of course, there’s John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” God had this plan in place for ME and YOU and everyone else because he LOVED us. Not because he had to, because he wanted to. Then there’s Jeremiah 31:3: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” And I love Zephaniah 3:17: “The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” God not only loves you, he enjoys you! He can’t wait to spend time with you! You are loved.
When I fear a life of unhappiness, God tells me through Paul that my circumstances or my state of being are not where my focus should be. “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:12-13) If I’m living for myself, I can easily look around and list dozens of complaints and miseries without even trying that hard. But if I am living for God, I can easily look around and list dozens of things I am grateful for, joyful about, hopeful for, praying about, and trusting him to take care of. Does this mean that as a Christian I should only have “positive” emotions? No! I will experience the ups and downs of life just like any human being. But I will “fix my eyes on Jesus” and not on my circumstances, “so that I will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:2-3)
When I fear being alone, God says repeatedly, “I am with you.” My favorite verse for this is Joshua 1:9: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” And Jesus tells us the same thing before he ascends to heaven in Matthew 28:20: “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” I also remember Hagar, the slave of Abram’s wife, Sarai. She finds herself running away from Sarai’s mistreatment, pregnant with Abram’s child (because Sarai and Abram felt they needed to “help” God out with giving them a child), lost and alone in the desert, and God seeks her out! I can only imagine what my mental state would be if I were Hagar, and how wonderful it would feel to have God show up in the midst of my struggle and give me guidance on what I should do. But here’s the thing – He still does that! I have found myself being rescued and counseled by God on more than one desperate occasion. He is with you, He sees you, He knows you, and He loves you unconditionally!
When I am second-guessing every decision I’ve ever made and wondering if my whole entire life has been totally screwed up by me, I go to Acts 17:26: “From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands.” I am exactly where I am supposed to be and so are you.
The Bible says over and over and over again, “Do not be afraid.” Fear is a liar, but Jesus is the truth, the life, and the way, and the truth will set you free! (John 14:6 and John 8:32)